When you are thrown into a divorce situation you expect people that are acquainted with the process to uphold a certain standard. You expect judges to judge rightly. You expect lawyers to know the law, understand financial obligations and have empathy concerning custody. Newsflash! There is no standard. I have read about certain judges in family law that have intervened in court when the attorney or attorneys steamroll their clients; those judges are a rare and dying breed. The public has no idea what awaits them if divorce comes knocking on their door which is why things are the way they are. You don’t know what you don’t know. It’s impossible to discuss family law without talking about the people that make family law possible – the country’s representatives. There have been only two US presidents with divorces in their past, both celebrities, Ronald Reagan and Donald Trump (no attempt to tackle family law so far). The divorce list is quite expansive for the run of the mill politician in the senate, congress or city government. It is surprising that family law is operating like the Wild West when so many of our supposed leaders have experienced this corrupt system, because they too are divorced. Did they reveal the problem to the last US president, Barack Obama, who identifies with lawyers since he was one? Lawyers are excellent politicians. He could have done something to impact positive “change” for family law “change” was his campaign message after all, but he didn’t come near family law with a ten foot pole. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against lawyers only something against a system that allows lawyers to take advantage of others.
Going through a divorce destroys the fabric of family. Divorce is devastating to society because it causes so much turmoil in the nuclear family, extended family and other relationships.
Divorce is necessary in some cases; however, filing for divorce lately has become as easy as selecting and purchasing something online.
America is so busy with vices a sort of forgetfulness sets in when it concerns the government until presidential elections of course, that’s when everyone is fired up about their “ideal” candidate and all the sudden they are a political expert. Americans also regain consciousness about the government when terrorists decide to kill American lives… I wonder what Abraham Lincoln would say if he looked at the United States government as it is now. It’s too bad more politicians do not think about America’s early predecessors while they are in office.
Family law is a fairly new practice. It developed around the time Franklin D. Roosevelt was president (it is uncertain if FDR influenced current practices in anyway). The New Deal wasn’t the only thing that happened during his presidency, Mr. FDR also had an affair. When ideals are lowered in any government it ricochets across the country and impacts the people within it. These various fractures happen because government is a source of leadership for a country. It provides governing structure. It provides infrastructure. It provides protection against threats. It provides its constituents a certain way of life.
Government is no different than any place in society, it is a place where mistakes are made.
The concern is when those mistakes are covered up, stamped out, ignored, avoided and life continues without a reset button or a corrective action. Status quo is no longer an option, the health of society is at stake.
There are some people that understand the health risk of divorce on society. These people try to change things for the common good in government; however, their efforts often get squashed by the opposition, because it destroys everyone else’s system or change is limited by state (it appears Senator Jeremy Ring from Florida understands part of the problem, but can’t get a bill to address it). That’s why no one in family law with a conscience speaks up. By speaking up they destroy their career, their connections and their life. Some in family law that have a conscience will either leave family law and go with another career after they’ve witnessed too much pain or they will eventually become complacent and accept how things are by limiting their contribution to the problem or try to balance things out. Others, the formidable others, will capitalize on people’s pain without remorse. I hope if you must be in a divorced situation with attorneys, you come across a lawyer with a conscience, because that truly is your only hope if attorneys are involved (see also: Going Pro Se in an Attorney’s World).
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